Reminiscing and thinking about old times can be a great exercise and it’s always good to have a healthy respect for things that have come and gone. As they say, learning from history is how you best ensure a good future.
But that said, if you’re constantly living in the past and especially if you are repeatedly ‘replaying’ events in your mind, then this can be far more damaging than helpful. Constantly repeating mistakes in your head is not only a somewhat unpleasant experience, it’s also a surefire way to make yourself less bold and less up for challenge in the future.
So how do you stop doing that?
Learn to Value Your Mistakes
The first thing to do is to value your mistakes. Remember that mistakes teach us things, they make us stronger and wiser and they give our personal narratives a more interesting and more unique bent compared with others. It’s not really our successes that cause us to grow and develop but our mistakes and each failure brings us one step closer to being the person you want to be.
Once you realize that your mistake has merit and value in itself, you can be a little more comfortable accepting it as part of your story.
Looking Forward
The next thing to do is to look forward and to remember that things are going to get better now. You’ve had your mistake, so how are you going to learn from that and use it to drive you towards future victory?
Instead of thinking about how your last relationship was a failure, focus on how you’re going to make the next one a success.
Forgive Yourself
Many of us focus on our failures and obsess over them because we feel frustrated at ourselves or even guilty. The key then is to stop thinking of yourself as someone who needs to perform perfectly. Remember: you’re only human and mistakes are par for the course. They are acceptable and even to be expected. Once you take that on bored, you can let them go. Ask yourself: would you beat someone else up if they had the same failure?
Learn to Let Go
Letting go in itself is something of an art form. If you’re someone who has an obsessive personality generally, then this is a skill that’s well worth learning. Try seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist, who is someone that can teach you the art of letting go and also of manipulating your thoughts in any other way.
Eva Gregory is a Law of Attraction expert, speaker, author and mentor to spiritual entrepreneurs – coaches, healers and holistic practitioners. Her passion is helping spiritual entrepreneurs go from chaos to clarity, and from clarity to cash flow by learning how to tap into their own inner guidance and merge it with proven practical business strategies to create enlightened businesses of purpose, passion and prosperity. She is author of “The Feel Good Guide to Prosperity” and “Life Lessons For Mastering the Law of Attraction” co-authored with Jack Canfield. Get your FREE REPORT, “Massive Success For Spiritual Entrepreneurs” here. Learn more about how Eva can help you at www.EvaGregory.com
