You know what sucks about failing at something?
The thought of having to tell people about it.
This is particularly true for those doing things like driving tests. When you tell people you are going to take the test, often they will respond with lots of words of encouragement and even written cards. Of course this is a nice gesture and it is coming from a nice place. Unfortunately though, it also means that if you don’t pass you then have to tell them. And at that point they may well have to send you more cards the next time you try.
Telling people about failure makes it real and unfortunately is often enough to prevent us from wanting to try in the first place. Here’s how to change your approach.
Do You Tell People Your Goals?
There are some schools of thought that suggest we shouldn’t be telling people our goals in the first place. Some research suggests that when we tell people our goals, we actually become instantly less likely to attempt them.
The reason for this is that telling people goals gives us a sense of ‘release’ and allows us to get some of the reward. When you tell someone you’re going to quit smoking, that then makes you feel a sense of relief and as such you don’t actually have to give up smoking for real!
If you take this stance, it may make more sense not to tell people about your goals – and that way you won’t have to come clean about your failures. The best scenario for most people will be to tell just a small select group of people.
Wear Your Failure Proudly
The next step is to change the way you think about failure. Many of us approach failure as though it is the end of the world. In fact though, failure just means we’ve tried something brave and it makes us stronger. All the most successful people in the world failed countless times to get to where they are now.
Telling people you failed in itself is a victory in as much as it takes courage. So instead of shyly avoiding the topic or making excuses (which everyone sees through anyway) just be proud and say went wrong.
If you struggle to do this, then you might want to reassess why you are doing things in the first place. Are you really trying for you?
Eva Gregory is a Law of Attraction expert, speaker author and mentor to spiritual entrepreneurs – coaches, healers and holistic practitioners. Her passion is helping spiritual entrepreneurs go from chaos to clarity, and from clarity to cash flow by learning how to tap into their own inner guidance and merge it with proven practical business strategies to create enlightened businesses of purpose, passion and prosperity. She is author of “The Feel Good Guide to Prosperity” and “Life Lessons For Mastering the Law of Attraction” co-authored with Jack Canfield. Get your FREE REPORT, “Massive Success For Spiritual Entrepreneurs” here. Learn more about how Eva can help you at www.EvaGregory.com
