It can be easy to play the victim, don’t you think? It’s much easier to play the damsel in distress, or the one who was done wrong. It makes us feel righteous and allows us to hold on to our grudges. For many of us, it’s our default reaction whenever something bad happens. It’s easier to blame someone else and make it their fault, whether it’s the truth or not.
More importantly, it allows us to sit back and react instead of taking control and responsibility for our life and how we feel. But this victim mentality comes with a pretty heavy price tag. That price is our independence and our pursuit of happiness. Knowing that, don’t you think it’s about time you started to take back control of your feelings and your life?
The first step to taking back control is forgiveness. Forgiving someone for a wrong done to you – be it real or imagined – is an important first step. It doesn’t mean that you condone what they’ve done. It doesn’t mean that you forget what they’ve done. It doesn’t mean that you will love them, or even chose to interact with them going forward. What it means is that you make the decisions for yourself that it’s time to let things go so you can move on.
Forgiveness is an act of taking control of your future and your destiny. It means letting go of pain and anger. It means giving up on that grudge and those feelings of getting even or even revenge. You do that so you can make room for the fun, happy and exciting things ahead. Here’s the thing. You can’t choose to be happy and invite positive experiences into your life while you’re busy plotting revenge and harboring anger. You can’t take control and play victim at the same time.
Yes, when something bad happens and someone has done you wrong it’s normal to feel angry. We do get hurt and we feel resentful for that pain caused. But then we choose to move on. We forgive so we can move forward with our lives. It doesn’t mean we condone what the other person did. It doesn’t mean that we’re giving in or giving up. It simply means that we chose to pick up the reigns and plot a better future. It means that we take control of the path we walk in life and the destiny we choose to create. Isn’t it about time you started taking back control? If so, start by forgiving those around you for what they’ve done to you. You may just be pleasantly surprised how good and empowering it feels to be the one in control again.
Eva Gregory is a Law of Attraction expert, speaker author and mentor to spiritual entrepreneurs – coaches, healers and holistic practitioners. Her passion is helping spiritual entrepreneurs go from chaos to clarity, and from clarity to cash flow by learning how to tap into their own inner guidance and merge it with proven practical business strategies to create enlightened businesses of purpose, passion and prosperity. She is author of “The Feel Good Guide to Prosperity” and “Life Lessons For Mastering the Law of Attraction” co-authored with Jack Canfield. Get your FREE REPORT, “Massive Success For Spiritual Entrepreneurs” here. Learn more about how Eva can help you at www.EvaGregory.com
