Do you get the idea that others lack respect for you, your beliefs, time and personal boundaries? It could be that you’ve been hesitant about setting those boundaries and following through with enforcing them.
Others, including the most important people in your life, may begin to take advantage of you if boundaries haven’t been clearly set and stated. Eventually, you’ll become angry and frustrated and those feelings could cause serious problems in relationships.
Setting boundaries will definitely demand respect for your feelings and values if you know how to enforce them. It does no good to write down what your boundaries are and how strongly you feel about them if you don’t follow through.
Here are some things you need to know about setting boundaries which will demand respect from others and build healthy relationships:
1.Put in down on paper. Everything you’ve recently felt about not being respected by others should be carefully thought out. Words that have been said or situations you’ve been bulldozed into and that are unacceptable to you should be analyzed. You should know exactly how you feel about the lack of respect byredefining your values. Values and belief systems change as we go through life and you may need to re-evaluate them periodically in your life.
2.Communicate your boundaries with others. This is the tricky part. You don’t want to seem unfeeling and come across as mean or angry. But, you do want to be kind and explain how you’ve come to the conclusions about how you want and expect to be treated.
3.Expect difficulties when you first communicate your boundaries. While some people will be openly pleased that you’re taking a stand to protect yourself, others may balk at your newfound boldness. You may feel uncomfortable with your efforts at first, but they will get used to the new boundaries – and so will you.
4.Be flexible and understanding of your boundaries. Healthy boundaries don’t necessarily mean rigid boundaries. Healthy boundaries are based on a sense of mutual respect and the goal of a healthy boundary is that you gain more respect from others and have more self-respect for yourself.
Your mindset will eventually shift and you’ll realize that it’s perfectly okay for you to have boundaries which will protect you and garner respect from others. You finally get to define your life to be exactly as you want it to be and don’t depend on others for your acceptance.
Eva Gregory is a Law of Attraction expert, speaker, author and mentor to spiritual entrepreneurs – coaches, healers and holistic practitioners. Her passion is helping spiritual entrepreneurs go from chaos to clarity, and from clarity to cash flow by learning how to tap into their own inner guidance and merge it with proven practical business strategies to create enlightened businesses of purpose, passion and prosperity. She is author of “The Feel Good Guide to Prosperity” and “Life Lessons For Mastering the Law of Attraction” co-authored with Jack Canfield. Get your FREE REPORT, “Massive Success For Spiritual Entrepreneurs” here. Learn more about how Eva can help you at www.EvaGregory.com
